Just back from a wonderful month's trip to Australia, New Zealand and Langkawi.  I was feeling very nervous about leaving home for so long and touring for two weeks in a car around NZ but, in fact, we had a great time.  Throughout the trip we never had a bad meal or bottle of wine and met so many kind, helpful and cheerful people.  We enjoyed many unexpected little treats - two lovely meals in the Matheson Cafe, Fox Glacier (www.lakematheson.com), another good experience at the Pepper Tree in Coromandel (www.peppertreerestaurant.co.nz), an unforgettable time at the Aworoa Lodge in the Abel Tasman Park (http://www.awaroalodge.co.nz).  The highlight of our trip was a relaxing 4 nights on our way home at the Andaman, Langkawi where the staff were so friendly and helpful and the facilities excellent (http://www.theandaman.com). 
Just two downsides: a very disappointing two nights in the Pauanui Pines Motor Lodge on the Coromandel, where the relentless bonhomie of the owner did not make up for a small, cheaply furnished chalet squashed behind a high, thick hedge - certainly nothing like the pictures or description in their literature - and a nerve wracking boat ride on an "island hopping" tour arranged in Langkawi. 
In contrast we enjoyed an excursion to the mangroves, organised by www.junglewalla.com in conjunction with the Andaman hotel, and led by a very knowledgeable guide, Adam. We saw kingfishers, bats, snakes, fiddler crabs and mud skippers as well as magnificent sea eagles and Brahminy kites.
Back to reality now - wind, rain, work and the prospect of a chilly winter ahead but a bank of great memories to reflect on in the months ahead.

Just have to share a short comment from a client received this week: Thank you for seeing me today, José. You always were calming and I found the session to be just that.

Lovely feedback which I am delighted to receive.  I do wonder if my nearest and dearest would recognise me though! 

Just enjoyed another excellent Athena meeting at Foxhills.  I have been a member of this great networking association for about four years now.  Meetings are always interesting, supportive and full of fun and it has really boosted my business.  I can thoroughly recommend it.  The speaker today talked about converting leads to increase your business and gave some really practical tips.  At first it seemed my therapy practice was too small a business to benefit, but speaking to her personally after the meeting, she had some useful advice to give me.  I seldom leave an Athena meeting without some useful tips and always find my energy and enthusiasm have received a big boost.  It is so important to get out and meet like minded people, especially when you are working in isolation running a small business from home.  Check out your local branch at http://www.theathenanetwork.com/  I am sure it will be a rewarding experience.

Through my networking contacts in Athena I have had a video made - you can see it on youtube:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=38fgVWTsehI.  It encapsulates my work and I am very grateful to the photographer and to the participants.  A real team effort and tremendous fun in the shooting.

And what worries me is, is it me or is it him?  Was it me who didn’t notice that the dishwasher tablet wrapper wouldn’t dissolve? After all, the last box we bought had dissolvable wrappers.  And how do you ever know what is reality?  Is my reality different from his, from other people’s?  How can we tell what is truth and what is fiction?  Am I programmed to remember totally different things or do we just perceive things – circumstances, events, conversations – in totally different ways in terms of our communication styles, life experiences, upbringing?  How can we ever know what is truth,  what is real, what is imagined?  I’m not sure that we can know.  And is that disturbing, frightening, enlightening?  Maybe we just have to accept it and adapt to it.  Thought for today.

So here we are again - back at work, back at school, chilly mornings and darkening evenings.  Memories of sunny days and summer holidays are fast fading and the same old, same old is back to dog our moods and dampen our spirits.  Old anxieties returning, depression even, as the winter stretches ahead of us.  Even if you don't have specific problem, it is easy to feel low at this time of year.
Now is the time to treat yourself to a relaxing session of hypnotherapy.  A session, which lasts and hour and costs £45, will help you to see the run up to Christmas in a more positive light, to plan in some treats and good things to look forward to through this busy period.
You can contact me via the website - www.mindtochange.co.uk or call me on 01483 769058 to book an appointment now.  You won't regret it. 

I have recently been seeing a 35 year old male client who presented at the first session with fear of flying.  He was about to fly to Europe for a wedding and felt he would be unable to get on the plane.  We did a simple fear of flying exercise but the next day he contacted me again, saying he had been unable to fly and he also felt that something from his childhood had been uncovered which he now urgently needed to address.  He described feeling as if he was being physically crushed.  He had a very stressful job, requiring him to be on call 24 hours a day and had gradually allowed his life to close down, cutting out exercise – particularly running, which he loves.  He had been to the GP who gave him a “fit note”, stating that he must only work normal hours with no on call duties.   

It seems that both his parents committed suicide when he was seven.  He and his brother went to live with their grandmother for a couple of years and were subsequently adopted into a very happy home.  He loves his adoptive parents and they are very encouraging and understanding.  His brother had a major breakdown a few years ago but is now doing well and shortly after putting them up for adoption, his grandmother developed Alzheimer’s disease and was lost to him. 

Over the years my client has been into drugs, had a number of periods of worrying completely groundlessly about his health – blindness, brain tumour – but he is now in a stable relationship and his life is on track.   

I taught him tapping to help with the anxiety and panic attacks and we did five hypnotherapy sessions, regressing to his childhood, comforting and releasing emotions, and generally relaxing, interspersed with counselling.  Initially he seemed to be getting worse, with increasing anxiety, troubled by dark thoughts, fearing death and finding it difficult to be in the present.  However, in the midst of it all, he managed to join a running club and start spinning classes with his partner.  His boss was supportive and the GP extended the “fit note”.   

In session seven he managed to say he forgave his birth parents and this certainly seemed to be the turning point for him.  By the 8^th session he had really turned a corner and, following a short holiday in the UK which he found very relaxing and enjoyable, he is feeling really good.  He has had no panic attacks for two months and is going back to on call duties gradually.  He is beginning to think about another holiday in Canada, where he has been several times and would really like to live.  

I felt really engaged by this client.  In the depths of despair still managed to get to see me and keep himself going, even though he was experiencing physical symptoms and severe panic attacks.  It is wonderful to see him come through safely and I wish him well.

I am really struggling at the moment with a severely anxious client.  We have done two excellent hypnotherapy sessions, with counselling in between, but he seems to be deteriorating rather than improving. 

He came initially with a fear of flying but it was almost immediately evident that this was a symptom of a much deeper seated anxiety.  He has had very difficult childhood experiences which are clearly now playing a part in his current terrified and anxious state.  He has stepped back from a very stressful job, but his system has been on 24 hour alert for so long, that it seems to have set itself to hyper vigilance and so far we have not managed to turn it down or off.  He is finding it almost impossible to enjoy the moment and is completely submerged in pointless and unfounded worries about the future. 

As is so often the case with such patients, it is only when their lives take a turn for the better and they have an opportunity to relax and enjoy life, that the anxieties surface.  It seems the body and mind get so used to being on watch 24 / 7 that they just cannot stand down and relax.

Fortunately his GP has been sensible and sympathetic and I am sure we will win through in the end.  I did feel some very valuable work was done in our last session that will have a benefit in the coming days.  Fingers crossed, at least.  He is such a very likely young man it makes me wish I really did have a magic wand in my toolbox to cure him instantly instead of going through the long and very, very painful process with him.